Ever since Drake & I went on our "breakfast" ("it's not a date, Mom"), Brant has been very eager to go on a "date" with me! Today was his turn! He didn't have a whole lot to say on the way to Sonic. He was quiet and I was a bit worried that it may not go well. I tried coaxing conversation out of him without much success. When we got there he hopped in the front seat with me and ordered ice cream and a burrito. (It was a date, what can I say? LOL) We watched a squirrel playing in a tree. We had some small talk. I tried the whole "you know you're special to me, right?" thing with him. But he was just not interested. So I dropped it.
I realize that Brant & Drake are two very different boys, with two very different languages. Drake loves to talk and be heard! He could sit on the sofa and talk for hours, maybe even days, if I'd listen! Brant likes being with you. It doesn't really matter what you're doing. Just as long as he is breathing the same air as you are. Don't get me wrong, Brant loves to tell stories as much as anyone, but, that's not how he connects, it's not what really matters.
Now, I am trying to figure out what Karli's language is. This may take a little more time and investigation on my part. She's not a big talker or doer. We connect when I sit on her bed and hear her and explain me. She also loves for me to do things with her that she enjoys. I think that Freddie is an action kind of guy. His language involves more doing than being or talking. Aubree is still developing her language, so I will be watching. My language is more like Drake's. I like the whole talking and being heard thing.
It is a special gift we give to others when we learn their language and make an effort to communicate with them on those terms. It shows that we really care enough to exert the extra energy and time to show our love, commitment, and compassion in whatever way speaks best to their heart. It validates the other person as special, the way God sees them, and us. So go out and learn to speak in a new language~ you just may be surprised what you learn in the process!
"If I could speak in any language in heaven or on earth but didn't love others, I would only be making meaningless noise like a loud gong or a clanging cymbal." 1 Corinthians 13:1
"And it's the same for you. If you talk to people in a language they don't understand, how will they know what you mean? You might as well be talking to an empty room." 1 Corinthians 14:9