Is the glass half empty or is it half full?
I choose to see the glass as half full. It is all too easy to fall into a trap of feeling sorry for yourself. What good does that do? Does it inspire you? Does it create a feeling of positive self-worth and value? Does it allow for an attitude of gratitude? No! Feeling sorry for yourself only brings you down. It's kind of like being your very own, full-time, personal bully. You have a conversation with yourself that only puts you down and tells you how low you are in life. There are plenty of people out there in this world who are more than willing to belittle you. Do not do that to yourself! You frankly don't need it.
When I begin to hear those innuendos of self-pity I quickly dismiss them with the simple fact that there is always someone who is worse off than I am. Not matter what! It's not to say that things don't get bad from time to time. We all go through difficulties in life. But, we are not so special that we are persecuted more than all other humans on the planet. We have our crosses just like everyone else does, and God gives us exactly what we need to be able to carry them~ and that when we get knocked down, we get back up again!
How do you want your children to handle life? Do you want them to be confident that the trials they face will pass? Or, do you want them to get so bogged down in the "why me" syndrome that they miss out on all the wonderful things that they have in their lives? I want for my children to seek out the lesson in each disappointment and struggle they encounter. I want them to train themselves on the growth of life, and not be paralyzed in fear and hardship. I want them to know that no matter how they are tested and tempted, they are beautiful, loved, and special. I want them to live their lives knowing that while they are no better than anyone else, there is no one who is better than they are.
It is our job to model for our children. We must live our lives as an example for them, much like how Jesus lived as an example for us. So, next time you are tempted to go head to head with yourself in a battle of put downs and low blows, simply back out of the argument. Turn and walk away. And pat yourself on the back for a job well done!
"For his Holy Spirit speaks to us deep in our hearts and tells us that we are God's children. And since we are his children, we will share his treasures- for everything God gives to his Son, Christ, is ours, too. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering." Romans 8:16-17